In May of 2016, my therapist recommended that I try Brazilian jiu-jitsu.

I’d been a martial artist for a long time though I wasn’t practicing. In high school, I discovered Tae Kwon Do and self-defense and immediately fell in love. The precision of the movements in the forms and the ease with which I was able to throw grown men over my hip were intoxicating. After a certain point, I became an instructor and taught both children and adults.

Life happened and I left Tae Kwon Do. For years, I was lost and searching. Searching for what I wasn’t sure. It wasn’t until I walked in the doors at Redline Jiu-Jitsu in Edmond, Oklahoma that I thought, “I’m home.”

BJJ is an interesting thing. It’s both a sport and an art. You’re crushing your body against a stranger’s and trying to outwit, outplay, and outlast them, ultimately submitting them using leverage over strength.

Through Brazilian jiu-jitsu, I met Jeniffer Gray, CEO and founder of She-jitsu. Jennifer was out of town when I started, but one of the She-jitsu shirts caught my eye. It said, “Real men empower women.” I was intrigued.


Meeting Jennifer and getting involved in She-jitsu was one of the happiest accidents of my life. She-jitsu’s mission is to empower women on and off the mat through self-defense and Brazilian jiu-jitsu. There is a clothing line as well.

This is something that’s very close to my heart. As a sexual assault survivor, I can’t stress enough the importance of self-defense. It’s not just physical, it’s emotional and verbal as well. Through She-jitsu, Jennifer hosts seminars and camps, teaching women invaluable techniques and lessons on the psychology of a sexual predator.

If you or someone you know might be interested in hosting a She-jitsu event, feel free to contact me here or to contact Jennifer Gray.